Essays and reflections on relationships, emotional intelligence, and prevention-first care—grounded in clinical insight and written with clarity.
Our journal explores how individuals and couples navigate connection, conflict, intimacy, and change over time. The writing is designed to complement therapeutic work, offering perspective rather than prescription.
The Lovers Counseling Journal
An Editorial Approach to Modern Relationships
The Lovers Counseling Journal offers thoughtful writing informed by relational science, clinical experience, and lived observation. Topics include emotional safety, attachment patterns, communication, intimacy, and the relational impact of stress and transition.
These essays are intended to support reflection and understanding—not to replace therapy or provide instruction. They reflect the same prevention-first philosophy that guides our clinical work.
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Before the Wedding: Building Emotional Foundations That Last
Marriage begins with intention. Discover how premarital counseling helps couples build emotional intelligence and connection—and join Lovers Counseling at the Boulder Wedding Showcase at Rembrandt Yard in Boulder, CO on March 7, 2026.
The Quiet Reset: Beginning 2026 With Inner Clarity and Emotional Regulation
Start the new year with inner clarity and nervous system balance. Explore trauma-informed individual therapy in Boulder, CO to cultivate emotional regulation and peace.
2025 Reflection: What Mattered to You This Year, and What Mattered to Your Relationship
Close the year with compassion and clarity. Explore what truly mattered—to you and your relationship—and design 2026 with intention. Prevention-first relationship therapy in Boulder, CO.
Celebrate Your Love in the Middle of the Holiday: Your Relationship Deserves Attention Too
In the middle of the holiday season, your relationship deserves presence too. Discover how slowing down, attuning, and offering emotional attention can reconnect you and your partner.
When Love Meets Logic: How Boulder Couples Navigate Emotional Repair After Conflict
Explore how high-functioning Boulder couples repair conflict with emotional safety, Gottman-informed tools, and trauma-aware communication. Learn to reconnect—not just resolve.
Attachment and the High-Functioning Individual: Healing Patterns That Hold You Back
Explore how attachment patterns impact leadership, self-awareness, and emotional connection in high-functioning professionals.
The Argument Isn’t Over — It’s Underground: How Avoidance Erodes Emotional Safety in Relationships
Avoidance might feel like peace, but it’s often a quiet disconnection. Learn how to spot emotional avoidance, how it shows up in high-functioning couples, and how to rebuild safety and connection through trauma-informed therapy in Boulder.
How to Know If You’re Growing Together or Growing Apart
Relationships change over time—but not all change means you're drifting. Discover how to tell whether you're growing in connection or slipping into disconnection, and how therapy helps real couples reconnect.
When Is Dating Counseling Right for You? A Guide to Navigating Dating Challenges
Identify signs that dating counseling could help you overcome challenges and foster healthier romantic connections.
Healing the Past, Nurturing the Present: Understanding the Link Between Childhood Trauma and Adult Relationships
Uncover how unresolved childhood trauma impacts adult relationships—and how individual therapy can help you build emotional safety and secure love.
Need Practical Support You Can Start Today?
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